Dear Dr. Ford,
After struggling for many years with the decision, I have asked my husband of 20 years for a divorce. Although he was a good father and provider for some of the time, his compulsive gambling has caused our family endless woe. It was very hard to get him to admit that he had a problem, and when he finally went to rehab he did not stay long enough for it to be effective.
I am now faced with the possibility of losing everything if I don’t act.
The problem is, even though I know I am doing the right thing and I am the injured party here, my husband does not recognize this. He is acting like a victim and is enraged with me, vowing to take away all our remaining assets. Also, my teenage children are very angry that we are divorcing. I have tried to avoid burdening them with too many of the details, and do not want to…